Switching Gears Through Embodied Movement

Just when I feel like I have a handle on everything, life gets busy! Lately I have had a lot going on with multiple projects, people, and situations vying for my attention. It’s not easy to juggle family, work, and relationships. 

Many times when I am super focused on work and have a lot on my plate, I tend to slide into more of a masculine energy. I’m doing, planning, and taking action. When I get into this space, I find that I am not giving the feminine side of myself enough attention and my inner polarity gets a bit wonky.

My partner took me aside the other day and expressed that he was feeling disconnected from me and that even though we were hanging out together, it felt more like co-existing rather than connecting. 

Instantly David Dieda’s, “The Way of the Superior Man” and the work of Michaela Bohem came to mind. Their philosophies have taught me about the inner masculine and feminine and how to embody the different qualities of these energies to optimize relationship dynamics. I listened to my partners experience and reflection and decided to test out one of Michaela’s embodiment practices. 

I decided to make space between my busy day and the time that I spend with my partner. During this break in the afternoon, I could shift into my feminine energy, allowing me to show up for my partner in a more fluid and vibrant way. So after my busy day I went home and put on some music. I took a few minutes to dance in a very free and embodied rhythm. This allowed me to shake off the energy of the day, get into my body, and get out of my mind. I went from ‘do’ mode to ‘be’ mode. Feeling more connected to myself and more balanced inside after dancing, I made my way to see my partner and I have to say, this embodiment hack made a world of difference! It’s actually during these busy and sometimes stressful times that connecting deeply in this way nourishes and fuels me the most.

I recently heard that the most important time for a couple, or the thing that greatly dictates how the rest of the time spent together will go, can be a cumulative effect of how we greet one another. Walking in the door, still having your stressful day all over you, maybe even still finishing up a phone call or work email, never feels very good for the other partner. We may both be unconsciously doing it, for example, still being in the middle of cooking when your bae gets home, not actually pausing to embrace, kiss and say hello. This can slowly disconnect you, more and more. It’s that body to body moment of resonance, that in fact calms and connects us, in a way that words never could.

So get dancing girl, trust me, you won’t regret the reward and after feeling a little weird at first, you’ll love the experience. And never miss the opportunity for a proper hello! 

“At the end of the day people won't remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.” - Maya Angelou